How getting used to feeling uncomfortable can help us navigate complicated emotions

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For the most part, I am an overwhelmingly positive person, and a lot of my writing focuses on looking at life through an unwaveringly optimistic lens. In this article however, I wanted to reflect on some of the more testing emotions that I have experienced recently. I am hesitant to use the word “negative” to describe difficult or challenging emotions because they are natural and come to everyone; it is how you process and act on them that dictates any negative outcome that follows. As much as I would love to be content all the time, it is just not…

I often struggle with issues of confidence and self-esteem. Overall, I would say that I am an outgoing and confident person but I’ve also realised that confidence is a fragile thing; sometimes it doesn’t take much to tear it down. One day, I came home and wrote this piece addressed to myself as a way of picking myself up again in those moments of self-doubt and low self-esteem. These are all the things I love about myself

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I love the enthusiasm and positivity that you have towards life generally. You always try to look at situations with a positive lens and I think this optimism really shines through your personality.

I love how self-aware you are. You are more in tune with your emotions than you have ever been.

I love how committed you are to working on yourself and the fact that you are always looking to better yourself and to grow in one way or another is so admirable.

I love that you care so much. You care about the work that you do, the…

2020 has been a challenging year for us all. We have all been tried and tested in so many ways and while it is easy for us to focus on the struggles and difficulties we have endured, I wanted to take a moment to reflect on the positives of the year. I wrote this piece to serve as a reminder of how far we have come. Let this be our year.

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Let this be the year where we were able to take some time for ourselves. Where we reflected on where we are, how far we’ve come and where we’re going next. This was the year where we learnt a new hobby, skill or trade. The year where we tried something new or revisited that craft we had thought long forgotten. This was the year where we thought we were limited but were in fact more capable than we ever knew.

Let this be the year where we took the pressure off. This was the year where we worked smart and…

Why attributing happiness to certain objectives can be problematic

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In this world of instant gratification, I find that we are always looking for the next thing that will keep us happy, even if only for the short-term. Whether it is a new show on Netflix, a new car or a new job, we’re always looking for the next thing to quench our insatiable pursuit of happiness. Many years ago, a friend once said to me “I try to be happy for no reason at all”. I didn’t really pay much attention to it at the time and I doubt this friend would even remember that conversation but now this…

Why we shouldn’t be wishing our time away

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One Thursday afternoon, when I was in school, I was in a piano lesson and my teacher asked me how I was doing. I said something along the lines of “I’m doing ok. It’s nearly the weekend, so at least we’ve got that”. My piano teacher then responded with one of the best pieces of advice I have ever received when he replied “don’t wish your time away”. That sentence has stayed with me ever since.

Every week, I cannot tell you the number of times I hear people say “I can’t wait for the weekend” or “it’s only x

A poem

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Dear daughter,

I wish that I could tell you that you can overcome anything that you set your mind to and that no obstacle will stand in your way. That with passion, enthusiasm and vigour, you could change the world someday. That with hard work, dedication and commitment your voice will be heard. I want to tell you that you can achieve anything you want to in this world. If I did this however, I think it would be untrue. This is not to say that you can’t do all this but just that the odds will be stacked against…

A poem

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Sit up straight and feel your feet against the floor.
See, we are all the same; neither rich nor poor.
Look ahead now with a nice, soft focus.
Just ignore the guy outside NatWest saying that he’s homeless.
Take a long, deep breath and gently close your eyes.
Can you feel the anxiety tearing up your insides?
Very good. Now let’s start to count the breaths.
Ten. Twenty. Thirty. The ebb and flow of student debt.
Stressed out, burnt out; this too shall pass.
Everything will be fine with this free yoga class.
Continue to count again. Forty-eight, fifty-two; national confusion.
Out of touch leaders with chicken box solutions.
Separate your thinking…

Why Mindy Kaling’s show is the representation the South Asian community has been waiting for

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Of all the TV series I’ve watched to date, Aziz Ansari’s Master of None is the only time I can recall seeing a leading protagonist of South Asian descent on a British or American TV show. Off the top of my head, Raj from The Big Bang Theory, Abed from Community and Cece from New Girl also spring to mind but they are featured more in supporting roles. When I came across Mindy Kaling’s Never Have I Ever, I was excited to see what the show had to offer.

For those who haven’t seen season one of Never Have I…

The lessons I’ve learnt from Jürgen Klopp through his managerial success at Liverpool

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When Jürgen Klopp joined Liverpool in October 2015, the team were languishing in tenth place in the league table. They say the league table doesn’t lie and Liverpool were indeed looking like an average mid-table side. I had never seen Liverpool win the Premier League in my lifetime and frankly, I didn’t see it coming any time soon. On 25 June 2020 however, Liverpool were crowned Premier League Champions for the first time and not only that, they secured the league title in record time with seven games to spare. The way in which Jürgen Klopp has transformed this Liverpool…

Rahul S

Hi, I’m Rahul. Just trying to navigate through life’s challenges and wanted to share some thoughts and feelings along the way.

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